When I think of divorced and newly blending families, this African proverb always comes to mind. All the parental figures come together in their own way, bringing their own strengths, to raise the child(ren) together. Of course, it is tricky to comfortably blend the various familial dynamics so that everyone (birth parents, step-parents, ex-spouses, etc) do not feel threatened and their role displaced.
Mina asked me the other night: “Mama, what does Family mean?” and “Who is our family?”
Mina is right to need some clarification because we are forming extended family tribes in many directions. Mina’s father will be marrying soon and there may be a baby in the future. Alex and I are together with his 2 girls. There is also his Ex and her boyfriend.